Gibbs Rule #6
I am an NCIS fan. The team dynamics, the critical thinking, the plot twists and the who dunnit.
The team leader and central role is Leroy Jethro Gibbs. His code of conduct as revealed as a series of numbered rules. This rules were influenced by his first wife – Shannon.
Gibbs: Are you waiting for the train too? We could sit together.
Shannon: I dunno, it’s a long ride. But I guess you’re not a lumberjack
Shannon: Well I have a rule. It’s either rule number one or number three, never date a lumberjack.
Gibbs: You’ve got a rule for everything?
Shannon: Working on it. Everyone needs a code they can live by. What’s your name?
Gibbs: Leroy Jethro Gibbs.
Shannon: I’m just gonna call you Gibbs.
Gibbs: You can call me anything you want.
Shannon: I’m Shannon.
Gibbs Rule #6 states: “Never apologize — it’s a sign of weakness.”
TRUE: There is no line between an apology and an excuse. Both seek absolution of blame and accountability.
FALSE: Apologies are necessary to clear the air, allow wounds to heal, and for life to continue.
1. Commit no act that may later require either an apology or an excuse. Linger through the moment of decision to the thoughtful consideration of the consequences. Ask clarifying questions.
2. Accept and respect the learning opportunity
3. For past transgressions, work as needed to restore authentic credibility.
Subordinate: “It will never happen again.” (Learning Opportunity!)
Leroy Jethro Gibbs:
• “Sure won’t.”
• “Better not”
• “No it won’t”
I am working on my list of HR Rules and have 55 line items right now. I am sure there are some redundancies with opportunities for improvement and prioritization.
Then there are the Boy Scout twelve Laws, repeated as a reinforcing mantra at each meeting and remaining in my memory today. A Scout is; Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean and Reverent.
Shannon: “Everyone needs a code they can live by.”
What is your code?